...LIFE after MarrIAGE...

...Life after Marriage....
Wow! how does this sound,well iam not sure how its gonna sound to you guys but for me its as great and awesome as it was den wen we were dating.......why is that people have different perceptions rader assumptions about life being changed and changed for not something better rader worse...........who said that people cant be insanly in love once they get married! Yes , ofcorce they can be only if they welcome and enjoy this changing phase of life...we have to embrace the change...think of life wen THERE ARE NO different PHASES......no teenage, no adulthood ,no old age, wont that be so boring.......yes,it will be no matter how much we yell about getting and becoming adults and complain bout the golden days of childhood, the innocence and care free attitude den ...... u wont have liked if you wud have jusst remained as a child always and wud have never grown ......................that is how life is, full of changes.... but every phase brings with it happiness and joy..no phase can take away the happiness,its we whu give up on being happy for the simple reason that we don't want to be happy and we dont want to change........if we wont change how will we give the space for something new to enter our lifes...HOw.......????
Marriages - dont change our lifes for bad n worse, its we who change the look of marriage because we fail, we fail to change, we fail to give our best, we fail to understand ,we fail and forget that happiness is a state of mind more den a state of matter........
nothing can ever change the love because if ever it existed ,it will last else it will fleet but its not in the nature of love to leave and walk away..its meant to last and last for ever...dats da beauty of love.....and dats wat love is.......holding on two souls as if tehy are juss one.............!!!


@Anuj : i love u so much...........!

..ALL I WANT IS...........

All i wana do is?

nothing but just run to you..........being wid you is so much fun....its how you make me feel dat life seems so incomplete widout you.....its only you who would love me even wen i shouts at you...........its only you who would never ever want da tears to come in my eyes...its only you who would care if iam sad..its only you who would love me always like never before..its only you who can make me write dis crazy Say.............

....Happy MoMeNts ...........

Are da moments which brings tears wen we try to recollect dem after dey are gone.......But those tears are because you miss dem so much and wish that they happen all da time....these are the moments wen u have shared something so special that you would want to have all that again and again and again.............

Thats where the beauty of such moments lie and thats y they bring tears....I feel we should make our lifez such that wen we luk back at the years that have gone by, we find lots and lots of moments which we can cherish forever............

Happy moments to me are not just the moments i have laughed like crazy but these are also the moments which have taught me so much ,so much so that it has transformed me and made me the person Iam today,person I myself is proud of....................these are the real moments...moments of making me "who Iam" and not just "Wat Iam"

Lifes great wen we have "MOMENTS" that has evolved us into a better person otherwize they are just "INSTANCES"

....REEL to REAL...FORGET to "FORGIVE"........

Lately i happened to be drawn more towards the negativity ...i don't know wat to blame for that but somehow it happens to be the aura surrounding me , the people around me ....there is so much to crib about that i have started looking at things in a negative way...wasnt like this but became ..................i know i don't have to blame others , other then me myself because its in my hands to control how i should feel and way i should react and respond..the choice is afterall all mine........but iam also HUMAN and being one i would want to shift the blame to something else but not myself.....................i realized thats not how i should be acting, its not me ..its not the way me being an optimist should think, its against the law of positivity......how can i just forget wat i feel is so important, how could i just not think about all this then................ "forgiveness" - today i want to forgive all those who made me cry, made life harder for me, made me hate them............I forgive you coz iam still HUMAN ,still feel pain, still have heart after all that bad you have done to me........you did wat you could but i forgive you because wat u did made me more strong...... n dis strength has given me the courage to move on and forgive you all..............Iam not saying i will "forget" it all but i will for sure forgive you all.......... the more you will try to break me , the tougher i will get .........it will not break me but your hope ...................

I hope you learn to be good to atleast all those who never did something wrong to you ,if not others................

...THE MAGIC OF LOVE...........

LOVE is what we all need but only few of us get..........why is love so rare ?

Is it really that hard to find or have we really shut our ears and closed our eyes to see love in the small things all around us.....love is in everything around us , we juss need to open our arms to welcome...its in the smell of flowers,its in the drops of rain, its in the twinkling of stars, its in the laugh of a baby, its in the care of the mother, its in the way our dad hugs us wen we come back , its the way our friends make us smile , its the way the lovers hold hands...its in everything and everywhere...........its so much all around us that we juss don't notice and value it.........................its not rare , its in the most simplest of things but over the years we have complicated it as we have complicated our minds ........................... love is in everything which adds to our existence on earth , its in everything which adds substance to it....no matter to wat extend but even then it holds value.................... all we need is to start feeling it and stop being dead with emotions.............love is a feeling and if we become insensitive to it we wont ever find love in anything .....our search will then be neverending.......we don't need big things to feel this love ,all we need is cherishing it , even in the minutest and smallest of forms.......................love is the most precious yet the least noticable feeling..................

...WhY IS dAT We.................

Why is that when it comes to giving advice , whenever we got to show someone the direction we always have something or the other to say even wen what all we say we won't ever do that ourselves........ why is that we ourselves doubt and find it difficult to follow wat we tell the world around................why???

It goes back to the time wen i was studying "Merchant of venice", there was a very beautiful saying which was true even then and even now - " Its always easy to preach but its difficult to follow ones own preachings"............ how true.........i think it happens because in the heart of our heart we like and may be believe wat we say but that belief is not enough to give us courage to do and actually do what we keep telling the whole world ... but when we preach others we find the satisfaction that there is this person who can reflect our beliefs because we never could implement them for ourself...................... now that we found someone we dont want to lose this chance................... reflection is what we wanted to see in others of our beliefs , how strange.......all our life we wanted to find someone who could do exactly what we wanted to do ourself , but then why not do that ourself ??????? wat is that restricts us from that , why do we fear , why dont we have enough strength , why we get short of courage?? why ??

May be because wen it comes to preaching we don't analyze the implications , there are many factors that we have kept constant wen we have analzed... those preachings are the creation of the illusion we love , the dream world we wanted would exist , its wat we always wanted to do , and do it so badly that wen we couldnt gather enough strength to do it ourselves we wanted others to do it............ but if we pause for a moment, slow down and relax for a moment we would realize " wats the point of having that belief which can't motivate us enough ,to actually execute it"... to me its as incomplete as the night without stars , a river with no water , a forest with no trees , a song without words and a dream with no hope............................its as incomplete as it can get............ we love the idea of living the life we never lived but wat have we done to really live it by changing how we have been living till now....why dont we juss reach out to our beliefs without needing anyone else.....

....may be iam just out of my MIND..........

Hmmm wat to say and wat not to say...

this thought often confuse me or maybe iam just sooooooooo confused to really think ...my mind is out of its senses and somehow iam just lovin it......who on earth ever sad its bad to be confused?? i never really heard anyone saying that so far and in a way i won't be surprised rather shocked if i hear it once they read this one.........CONFUSION, CONFUSION AND CONFUSION ........ i see it as a positive sign may be because iam an optimist but i do have a fact to support ...see wen are we confused? hmm generally wen there is so much to say and its hard to shrink it to couple of words .....its confusing as you start feeling a pressure in your head , pressure that despite all that shrinking and cutting it down , it should still be able to potray the real meaning and the real set of emotions........... i don't understand why do we need to shorten it ?? i really dont know ...wen for all the useless stuff one can waste ample time then why not give that time to someone to hear wat they need to say...... and may be wat they will say turns to be really good......and if doesnt its still interesting to know how different you think of yourself and how different world sees you...........

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DON'T know WAT I WROTE BUT YUP I DID WRITE SOMETHING ........ITS HARD TO FIGURE OUT .................. : )))))))